Dear 16 year old Naomi,
Things will get better. I know you think that everything has to change for it to get better, but it doesn't. You think all your problems will be solved if you go to California for college, but you don't, and you ended up with a pretty nice life. And we(?) are finally going to live in California in a few months, so it's not like you never get to go.
Sometimes it is okay to let things go. Not everything needs to be a Big Issue. This is something you will still need to work on in five years, but maybe you could start now.
It's okay that you have no idea what you want to do with your life. Five years later, you only have a vague idea, but you've figured out how to trust God and let life take you where it goes. Something you should probably remember: "if you want to make God laugh, tell him your plans." A lot of things have not gone according to plan, but things have been good anyway.
Love, 21 year old Naomi
P.S. He's never going to love you like you love him. And it would be awesome if you could just figure that out now instead of suffering through that for the next few years...
Visual aid: me at 16...